I really can’t believe we are now in September! I thought that after a few weeks, we would be back to our “normal”, yet here we are 6 months in. Sometimes I feel like I’m in The Twilight Zone, or Punked and Ashton Kutcher is going to jump out any minute!
To say it has been an easy 6 months would be total BS. Let’s term it as an ‘interesting 6 months’ instead! But we are still alive and kicking. High fives to us for being resilient and making it to today.
Many of the families and clients I am connected with have young kids back at school in distance learning. One of the concerns I have heard over and over is that “It’s a lot”. Umm, yeah, ya think??!
Making an effort to keep the kids focused, while trying to stay on top of your own work (especially if you’re working from home), not to mention manage your household responsibilities, your relationships, and still find time for yourself? Hell yes, it can be overwhelming!
While many of us are used to doing it all ourselves, that’s a form of perfectionism and control that only serves to make us more overwhelmed and exhausted. And there are so many BS limiting beliefs tied to wanting to do it all ourselves:
I can do it better
If I don’t do it all myself, than I am lazy
If I do it all myself, than I am worthy
And the list goes on and on.
I am here to tell you that doing it all yourself is a prescription for failure. I tried for many years and I was totally MISERABLE! I shifted that mindset and learned to delegate a whole lotta things. But on the real tip - I still hold stuff on my plate I could let go but hey, it’s about progress not perfection.
I’ll let you in on another secret – the most organized and successful people don’t do it all themselves. Believe me, they have a team of people they rely on to get shit done.
So now is the best time to learn how to delegate, let go, and ask for help.
Start by being open and communicate with your partner, kids, manager, friends etc. Find ways you can support each other during this time and lessen the load. From my conversations with others, many teachers and employers are being very understanding and compassionate. Please don’t feel like the load of the world is on your shoulders. Reaching out for support, asking for help, and delegating will really help you more than you realize.
Get the kids involved in the household chores, ask your partner to help with things you usually do on your own, reach out to a neighbor or friend that lives nearby and ask them to pick up a few groceries to help you. Order DoorDash, eat cereal for dinner, or get together with a few other families and help each other by batch cooking and sharing.
If the option is available to you, hire help. You will not only be helping yourself, but the person you hire too. Remember – what you put out will come right back to you.
I promise you that you are not lazy or any less than for delegating, for letting some shit go, or for asking for help. Making an effort to do it all yourself doesn’t benefit you or anyone around you. You are a bad ass regardless of how much you do or don’t do. Let that shit go and focus your energy on what matters.
I love you and want you to know we GOT THIS. I am here for you my friend!