Does this sound familiar to you? “No, no, no. Don’t worry, I got it. I don’t need help, but thank you anyway.” When the reality really is, “I’ve got so much on my plate, I’m drowning over here! But for some reason, I just can’t ask for or accept help.”
It’s a story many of us share. There’s a host of reasons why we’re resistant to receiving help. Either we think asking for help is weak, or we don’t want to ask because then we owe someone, or we can do it better ourselves (well, ok yes. Most of the time we can, but whatever LOL!).
While we might think all of these reasons are valid, they only thing they’re doing is hindering us. There’s no way in hell you can achieve all of your life’s goals and aspirations without help and support. I’ve tried and I fell flat on my face and burned out. I even had one of my coaches tell me I was crazy and had a death wish - he wasn’t kidding!
The most successful people in this world have dream teams that help and support them. I’m proud to say I’ve got a great one, and I’d never be where I am today if I didn’t have their help. While many on my dream team are people I’ve hired, I also have a handful of great friends and family I can reach out to for help and support.
When it comes to my dream team, I know I can call on them at any time. Here’s a great example:
My son decided to go to a junior high dance at the very last minute. I was already out for the evening and couldn’t get home in time to drive him to the dance. So what did I do? I called one of my dream team members who happens to live in the neighborhood. She was more than happy to help, and picked him up and dropped him off at the dance. And you know what? When she needed help, she called me. I was grateful to have the chance to support her by dropping her daughter off to an appointment.
Take a minute or two now to think about your day. Are there things you can drop entirely off your list? We often do things out of habit that aren’t even necessary, draining our energy and time. Are there things you can delegate, or services you can utilize to do those things for you? I’ve got another example for that last one!
A few years ago, I had a jam-packed work, home and coaching certification class schedule, so I used Instacart to order Costco. My husband looked at me and rolled his eyes, having the audacity to say, “That’s lazy!” My reply was, “Baby, it isn’t lazy! It’s smart. I have my hands full and unless you want to do the shopping for us, this is how I’m helping myself!” That helped him get on board, LOL!
The moral of the story? You don’t need to do everything yourself! You don’t need to be a martyr, thinking your worth is tied to all of the things you got done in the day. It’s not only unrealistic, it actually prevents you from achieving your greatest desires because you’re so bogged down by task after task. Part of self-care is letting go and being ok to delegate (or hire help if that’s an option for you), as well as take full advantage of today’s modern conveniences.
So maybe now is the time to create your own dream team! What are you ready to let go of or delegate? I’d love to know.