Did you know that we all have a love language? It’s fascinating shit! For instance, if someone is upset with you for not spending time with them, their main love language could be quality time. If you notice your loved one is complaining that you don’t help enough around the house, their love language might be acts of service …
Without realizing it, many of us carry pain from our past that holds our minds, bodies and spirits hostage. While we don’t want to ever completely erase our past – as it’s shaped us and is an important part of our personal history - there IS a benefit in facing past pains to gain freedom in the here and now ...
We learn at such a young age (well, at least I did!) that making mistakes is an absolute no-no. At that impressionable age, we then create a belief that tells us mistakes are bad. And so we begin our walk into perfectionism …
Time and time again, I’d hear the word ‘purpose’ and the phrases, ‘What is your purpose?’ or ‘Find your purpose’. It overwhelmed me to think about it, particularly as I’d created a story in my mind that I had to find my purpose, and if I didn’t, I was wasting my time. How would I even know what my purpose was – were there clues or signs? …
Does this sound familiar to you? “No, no, no. Don’t worry, I got it. I don’t need help, but thank you anyway.” When the reality really is, “I’ve got so much on my plate, I’m drowning over here! But for some reason, I just can’t ask for or accept help …”
Were you as excited as I was to say goodbye to 2020 and welcome 2021??!!!! Although I know the stroke of midnight didn’t change much, it still felt great to say goodbye. As we move into a new year, I want to touch on something so many of us take for granted - celebrating the small wins every day …
For some of us, Thanksgiving may be different this year. This may create feelings of sadness, frustration, and anxiety. But I want you to know I am here with you. I encourage you to honor your feelings – really allowing yourself to feel whatever you are feeling. We can feel sad for the changes imposed upon us, but grateful at the same time for all that we do have …
The word ‘surrender’ sure is loaded. To me, it used to mean waving that white flag, bowing my head in defeat, and slinking off feeling like a total loser. Like the times in wrestling when The Rock had his opponent in a headlock, and pinned on the mat. As the crowd roared and cheered him on, the only option his opponent had to catch his breath and save his life was to tap out and surrender …
I gotta be honest and say it took me a good few months to adjust to this pandemic lifestyle. For the most part, I’ve used all the tools in my toolbox (and then some!) to stay grounded, pivot, be flexible and thrive. BUT DAMN, it has taken focus and determination …
Our words and thoughts have the power to shape our lives, as what we think and speak becomes our reality. Since our minds are wired for survival, around 80% of our thoughts focus on the negative. But that’s ok, because we also have the ability to re-wire our brains to increase our positive thoughts simply by practicing affirmations …
I really can’t believe we are now in September! I thought that after a few weeks, we would be back to our “normal”, yet here we are 6 months in. Sometimes I feel like I’m in The Twilight Zone, or Punked and Ashton Kutcher is going to jump out any minute …
Most of my mom life, I’ve stuck to a pretty structured schedule. If things interrupted it - like a sick kid, a late client, or a missed flight - I’d fly straight into a tail spin. OMG my schedule, my plan, my control (p.s control is just an illusion but I will save that for another time)!!! The last several months have shown me I can gain so much more by being flexible and going with the flow, rather than rigidly sticking to my schedule. Here’s why …
There was a time that I was terrified to set boundaries. To be frank, I probably didn’t even learn the definition of the word until much later in life! I was forever a ‘people pleaser’, always saying yes when I really wanted to say no. It got so exhausting and made me resentful as F%&* …
Do you feel like it’s Groundhog day? I have heard the term recently from several people, where you feel like you’re just going through the same old motions, day after day. Being under the Shelter in Place order contributes to this, as it disconnects us from many of the people, places, and activities we’re used to; ones that help us escape and have fun. As a result, life tends to feel a bit ho hum …
To say it’s been a tumultuous few months is a massive understatement! I don’t know about you, but there have been days that I slid down that rabbit hole. Thankfully I’m aware when I dip into the abyss, and I’m able to use the many tools I’ve practiced and preached over the years to pull me out. One such tool is to harness the power of fun …
It has been a challenging and heartbreaking few weeks witnessing the pain, sorrow, and anger over the murder of George Floyd. I cried for several days. I felt frozen, and didn’t know what to do or what to say. Then one of my friends said to me that what is happening in our country right now is an ‘intifada’. In Arabic, intifada means uprising. And I couldn’t agree more as what we are witnessing is just that – an uprising of voices that have been unheard and criminalized for too many years …
These past few months, I bet you’ve been indulging in some delicious food combined with a side of prolonged screen time. As much fun as it is to enjoy some downtime, and all the scrumptious creations coming out from home or takeout kitchens, this combination is a recipe for lethargy. And feeling like crap for too long can have a real impact on your immune system …
We’re living in a time of negativity overload, both in the news and our conversations with friends and family. I’m sure you’ve found yourself being all sorts of negative many times over (I know I have!), but this doesn’t necessarily mean you’re a negative person. This can be attributed instead to a psychological phenomenon called the negativity bias, and here’s how knowing about it will help you overcome it …
Are you starting to feel angry, suffocated, or ready to kick something? I hear you as I’m right there with you! But this hard time we’re all going through is also giving us an amazing opportunity to both flex and build our resilience muscles. And here’s why that’s so important …
I hope this post finds you and your loved ones safe, as we all collectively deal with the unimaginable impact of COVID-19. Even amongst all the uncertainty and fear, there are rays of sunshine to find and opportunities for growth. But you have to be brave enough to shift your mindset to find them …
